People talk about feeling busy during the holidays. We think of it
as birthday season. In the span of six weeks we have Quinn’s birthday,
Thanksgiving, Mona’s birthday, Aden’s birthday, Christmas, my brothers’
birthday and New Year’s. Somewhere a week into January I’m finally able
to take a deep breath, but until then I’m running. I don’t even think
about Christmas decorations until well past the middle of December.
So right now we’re just heading toward the hump of birthday season.
Quinn’s birthday was low key and fun. He had a chocolate cake with
lots of purple frosting and a candle in the shape of a ‘7.’ (My kids
almost never pick the candle that has anything to do with the age they
are going to be, so it’s a good thing I date our photos because trying
to deduce anything in the future from pictures of the cakes would be
difficult to say the least.) He got some nice presents from his
grandparents, and Aden read him all his birthday cards out loud.
Thanksgiving was wonderful. We ate too much and enjoyed nice
company, just the way it should be. Mona had the best line at dinner. After
showing her all the available food the only thing she liked enough to
put on her plate was a bit of turkey. So when we were all seated at the
table and my neighbor raised her glass and said, “A toast!” Mona perked
up and said, “I’d like some toast!” It was great having Ian home, even
for such a short visit. It’s amazing how time can feel erased in
certain circumstances. As soon as he was in the house again it just
felt right and normal and as if he hadn’t left us back in September.
All those nights of going to bed without him felt like a dim memory. I
have to take him to the airport tomorrow morning. I don’t want him to
go.
Coming up soon is Mona’s birthday, and she’s been begging since last
year to have a party at Chuck E. Cheese’s. I relented, primarily
because the idea of only cleaning up the house for one party instead of
two appealed to me. Chuck E. Cheese’s is only a few blocks from our
house so we can just walk there. The place gives me a headache, but it
makes the kids really happy. Aden is currently the perfect age to
enjoy it because she’s just old enough to apply some skill to the games
and develop a strategy for getting as many tickets as possible, and just
young enough to think all the cheap prizes she gets for those tickets
are fabulous. I’m already looking forward to leaving that party.
Aden will be turning eight the week after Mona’s birthday, and her
party theme this year is ‘dancing to records.’ I showed Aden last year
how to use our record player and she’s crazy about it. She plays Peter
Gabriel and Hermans Hermits and her favorite thing is the B side to a
Soft Cell 45 that I got back when Harmony House sold vinyl. I remember
how much fun I always had using my record player as a kid and messing
with the different speeds, so I broke out some of my old LPs one
afternoon and taught Aden the fine art of dropping the needle down
between songs. She’s been enamored of it ever since, despite being
limited to the music her dad and I thought was cool back in high school,
and whatever my dad brings her when he visits. I’m still not sure how
to structure her party so that the other kids have fun, because Aden has
some idea in her head about a dance contest with some pretty specific
(and somewhat annoying) sounding rules, but I’m sure it will work out.
I’m trying to find a mirror ball and we may make some kind of sash for
the dance contest winner. Not sure yet. But she does want a
rectangular cake with the music to Happy Birthday written out, and that I
can handle. (I asked her if I could just make a round cake that looked
like a record, but for some reason that didn’t fly.)
After the dust settles from Aden’s party I’ll start to panic about
Christmas presents for everyone. My mom has often mentioned around this
time of year how inconvenient my “planning” has been, that all the
birthday and Christmas presents have to come about the same time for all
my kids. It is an awful lot of present overload, but after a childhood
spent watching my poor brothers share a birthday a few days after
Christmas, I am determined to keep my kids’ birthdays a distinct event
from the other big gift giving day. (There were few things that seemed
more unjust as a child than a single box labeled “Happy Birthday and
Merry Christmas to Arno and Barrett.”) The nice thing for us about
Christmas is that (aside from my parents) everyone comes right after the
actual day.
There have been years I got our tree for free because I
didn’t need it until the 24th. We get to spread out the fun from
Christmas Eve all the way through New Year’s Day, with a big family
party for my brothers in between. Milwaukee is not the most accessible
place for my relatives to gather, but the up side of my “planning” is
that no one felt I should have to travel with a newborn in December.
Everyone’s in a habit of coming to us now, and no one seems to have
noticed yet that the newborns are all walking, talking, potty trained
people. (I love having everyone here, so don’t tell anyone we could
travel now, okay?)
But the best gift this season is that Ian may get to come home again
one more time before he ships out to Iraq. Nothing is ever certain with
the Army, so I’m not banking on it, but the chances are good. As I
type this, he’s downstairs playing with the kids for the last hour or so
before bedtime. It’s a comforting thing, just knowing he’s down there
having fun with them. When they wake up tomorrow I’ll have already
taken him to the airport, and we’ll go back to life without daddy for
awhile. With a little luck, by next birthday season he can help me with
the pizza and the cake and the dancing and whatever else the kids come
up with to keep life festive this time of year. Definitely something to
look forward to.
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