Holding Down the Fort

( UPDATE:  All of these posts have been transferred into Korinthia's Quiet Corner, and are now searchable here without having to go into Babble.  All the links on this page go back to Babble, which means not all of them have photos or complete posts available. )

Back when Babble.com was new I wrote a couple of essays for them about my experience as a mother caring for three kids while their dad was deployed in Iraq.  The first one was about being on The Home Front, and the second was about Ian's Return to the Home Front.  When Ian was deployed the second time Babble hired me on as a blogger.  It was a great way to share what life for a military family was like with other families who really didn't know.  My blog was titled Holding Down the Fort.

I wrote posts for that blog for almost three years, but unfortunately it isn't searchable at Babble anymore.  I think the posts about dealing with my husband's deployment in particular may still be relevant, and in general I think I did some good writing there, so I'm sorry my old blog isn't really accessible.  I did manage to find it though a wayback machine search at one point, however, so I put up these links.  Most of the photos don't work, and sometimes what I wrote gets jumbled into other things, but some posts I know friends and family still share, so I'm glad to be able to provide them in some form.  

If you want to search the entire blog (in reverse chronological order) the link I was able to find is here.   (For whatever reason the archive list does have pictures, so that's something.)

Otherwise (mostly for my own reference) here are some blog posts organized by category:

Deployment:

The Letter
Major Stay-At-Home Dad
Countdowns Are Nervewracking
Do Children Understand Goodbye?
Goodbye Round Two
Cleaning Up
Garden Fairies and Other Magical Beings
Fear At Fort Hood
Flagged
What the Army Thinks Is Helpful
Adjustment
Care Package Pitfalls
Amnesia
Safe and Strong
If it Looks Like Failure and it Quacks Like Failure...
Party Is Such Sweet Sorrow
When Valentine's Day Sneaks Up On You
The Right Kind of Help to Military Families
Kindness Counts
The Deployment Part of the Parenting Puzzle
Looking Back on Yesterday
Breathing Room
Spring
Daddy Sounds
Goodbyes Hurt More Than a Fat Lip
Temporary
A Memorial Day Note
The Home Stretch
One Month
Contact
Fears
Dear Ian,
Who Needs Words?
Homecoming
Major Guest Blogger
Transition
A Veteran's Day Note
Extra Thankful
I'm Saying Two-Thousand-Eleven
Feast or Famine
Survival Mode Deja Vu
Fine

Parenting:

Taking Sides
The Other Work/Life Balance
It Gets Easier
Positively Frustrating
Living In The Squirrel Cage
The Little Things
Things That Are Easier With Two Adults in the House
Influence
Rain Rain Rain and Basement Cards
Accommodation Vs Overindulgence
Random parenting things that may or may not have helped
Yelling
Beyond the Baby Steps
Pain Is Not a Competition
The Full Orchestra
Tough Enough
Three Divided By One-On-One
Small Breakthroughs
Taking The Love Away
Just When You Think You Know Your Kids...
Misunderstood
What Do Your Kids Eat?
A Really Good Father
Anything You Want
The Really Hard Talk
It's Not the Crime, It's the Coverup
Unmasked!
Cling-A-Thon
Special
Friendship Angles
Naming the Spiders
Well Rounded Education
A Birthday Off to a Good Start


My Kids:

Introductions: Quinn
Meet Mona
Girl Aden
The Cute Face
RIP to a Potter
School of One
The Stuff of Dreams and Nightmares
Birthday Season
Counterbalance and Birthday Fun
My Quotable Kids
A Kangaroo's Tale
Things in Things
I've Been Dumped for Someone Younger! 
Home of the Sensitive
Mona the Inappropriate
Days With My Little Guy
All in a Row
Aden the Cook
School School School
The Short, Dramatic Tale of Mona's Paper Chameleon
The Tooth Fairy May Have to Just Move In
Birthday Season in Full Swing
Let Them Eat One Last Cake
Aden's Homework
A Code Red World
A Steal At Only $1.02
Multi-Cultural Fair
Welcome Rejection
Two Down, One to Go, Then We Get a Tree
Double Digits
The Ultimate Game


Family:

Happy Birthday to a Great-Grandma
Which Family Is Mine?
Happy Halloweeniversary!
Thankful
Traditions and Ruts
All Kinds of Hectic
When Four Feels Like A Small Number
So Many Roads
Lucky 13
Goodbye Gram
Eulogy for Grandma
Spite and Malice
Memorials Are For the Living
Quiet Joy
Don't Suffer Before You Have To
Home Sweet Hugs
Long Distance Snuggles
The Answer to Life, the Universe, and Everything
How Do You Hold Onto Something You Cannot Touch?
Bikes, Elvis, and a Whole Lot of Flags
We Are History
Fresh Starts, New Worries
Optimism
Next Time A Party
 

Music/Violins:

Kids and Music Lesson: Free Advice!
What's A Mandola?
My Job
Everybody Sing
Life In A Case
Stolen!
History in Your Hands
Not Just a Gig
Report from String Camp
Things That Are Better in the Dark
'Tis the Season
Where You Sit
ABC's of Violin Making 
You Never Know



Crafty Things:

Costume Time
The Big Clock Project
The Small Light Project
Costume Progress
Pumpkin Fun
A Dragon, A Blue Jay, and A Dog Named Spot
Mommy's Sweatshop
Flat Ellora
How Have You Lived Without Crayon Pockets?
Books In Production
Perler Bead Love
A Ton of Projects and Three Blind Mice
Rock On, Lobster
Eating Our Words at Book Club
The Costume Machine Gets in Gear
Mona's Creations
Want To See the Crocodile?
And Finally, the Porcupine
Home Depot Fun
Prepping the Dragons
Dragon Day
Bad Eggs



Gender:

Crying
Rethinking Pink (the Misogynist Within)
When Friendship Isn't Friendly
Gender Expectations
The Personal Touch, or Just Touched?


My Parents:

No One Ever Expects a Trip to the Hospital
My Mom Is Awesome
While It Still Exists, Let Me Tell You About the Gallery
Being a Daughter, Missing My Kids
Goodnight Gallery
Over And Out
Whirlwind
On the Mend
Aren't Roller Coasters Supposed to Be Fun?


Adventures in Fruit Tasting:

Blowfish Fruit
Dragon Fruit
Buddha Hand
Rambatan
Pepino Melon

Blogging:

Blogging Is Harder Without The Internet
Support a Troop Today
Censored!
This I Believe
Forget Walking and Chewing Gum at the Same Time
On the Radio
A Good List D.C. al
Coda


Health:

Sick
Weighting It Out
Diva Cup
Going Swimmingly
Not Fair
Hospital Mysteries
Making Advances While Defenses Are Low
Second Thoughts
Did You Hear the One...
The Other F-Word
Adventures in Swimming
No One Likes a Mystery Involving Barf
Medical Mystery Update
30 Days
A Call Nobody Wants to Get
Breathing Easy
Musical Beds
Temporarily Not A Liar
Almost Recovered


Trips:

Hitting the Road
Two Moms in Alaska
Big Apple, Little Legs
New York Adventures Part 1
New York Adventures Part 2

Cottage:

The Cottage
House of Dreams
Home Sweet Homes
A Real Vacation
Photos!

Dog:

Suspense!
Want to See Our New Dog?Puppy Love and Angst


Playtime:

Last Trip to Incrediroll
Friday Night Movie Night
Book Club
Rock of the Week
Neighborhood Recess
Be Careful Where You Hide Your Frogs
And Then We Tried to Go to the Circus
Friday Night Movie Night 2 (With Moral Dilemma Bonus Feature)
When Nothing Means Everything
Little Voices, Big Music, Plus a Perfect Trip to the Fair
Summer!
Tramampoline!  Trabopoline!
The Return of Neighborhood Recess


House Things:

Is This Crazy?
The Plan
Arriving at Someday
Moving In Slow Motion
Oh Styrofoam, How I Hate Thee, Let Me Count The Ways...
Home
Moving In, Moving On
Garage Vs Deck
Garage Vs Deck Decision
The New Garage
Housework Reconsidered


Miscellaneous:

My Name Is Mom
Pachinko Anyone?
My Least Favorite Quote
Totally Lost
In Defense of Handwriting
Glasses Are Weird
A Change of Toon
Lost Again
Thinking of Katie
Touchy Situations
Things That Go Crash In the Street
The Good Old Days
Nature in our Neighborhood (and Falling from the Trees)
Found!
Friendship Auditions
Cookieland
Snow!
Making Money
Habits, Observations, and Walking the Dog
Glasses Are Still Weird
On Target
It Could Be Croptacular
While I Was at Work
Of Memories and Editing
Odds, Ends, and a Hopeless Challenge
Books vs Movies
The Art of Waiting
Fancy
Fancy Accomplished
Day of Little Things