Dear Family and Friends,
This letter is to let all of you know that Ian is being deployed to
Iraq for the second time at the end of September. He is currently a
Major in the Army Reserves, and he will be leaving with a Logistics
Maintenance Assistance Team (LMAT) based in Madison. This mission is
different from the one he participated in during his last deployment
where he remained on an American base. This time he will be helping to
train members of the Iraqi Army. Frankly, this new assignment has me
more concerned than the previous one, but Ian feels prepared and ready
to do his job, although he’s wishing he’d had time to learn some
Arabic. Just like I informed everyone back in 2006, please do not
approach Ian with the attitude that news of this deployment is like
cancer. He is confident he can make a difference and wants to use his
skills to create positive changes in a troubled area of the world. He
will miss his life and his family here, but he promises me he will come
back to it.
From my end, I’m anxious because we’ve done this before and I have
some idea what sort of challenges lie ahead, but things are already
easier than last time. First of all, I’m not pregnant, and that alone
will make this deployment seem like a cakewalk compared to 2006. The
kids are all older (currently 7, 5 and 2) and much more self-sufficient
which should help. The girls will both be in school full time, and we
know more families than we did when Aden was just starting half-day
kindergarten before. Having months to prepare (compared to 6 days) has
been useful, and Ian has helped me get many things in order, including
getting me a GPS so I will still have a voice in the car telling me when
to turn even if it can’t be his for awhile. Ian’s unit is based in
Wisconsin this time, not Texas, so I have hopes that there might be a
family readiness group to lend a hand for a change. (The Army was
useless to us the last time, so I will admit they are not high hopes.)
We’ve hired a friend to take over Ian’s work at the violin store, but
without Ian home to be with the kids I will have to cut back the store
hours to overlap with school. We have a lead on a neighborhood grandma
for hire who may be able to watch Quinn some mornings so I can get more
work done, and I hope that works out. (Otherwise barnacle boy will be
stuck to my knee for twelve straight months, and it’s very hard to work
on violins that way.) We’ve really enjoyed running our own business, so
I hope our customers are understanding enough about our circumstances
to put up with my limited availability. I love my work, but of course
my kids come first so I want to be with them as much as I can. One of
the ways I’m planning to stay occupied while being at home is by writing
a blog for Babble.com. I was going to put regular updates about our
family on a blog during this deployment anyway, since it seemed like an
easier way for people to check in on us, and I’m happy that Babble was
interested in sponsoring it. The wars we are involved in are seldom in
the news anymore, the soldiers tend to only be remembered on patriotic
occasions, and the families of those soldiers are largely invisible to
the public. I think putting our story out there as a reminder could
help.
I am always touched by the fact that people genuinely want to help, but
most of them aren’t sure how. Here are some ideas: It’s wonderful to
have adults to talk to. Call, write, visit… Having Ian away is lonely
and there are only so many conversations I can have with my kids about
Webkinz or opening yogurt containers before I start to feel like a
zombie. Any night I don’t have to cook and then clean the kitchen is
good–invite us over and I promise to tell amusing stories about my
brothers. (See guys? You’re helping already!) It’s nice once in
awhile to get out alone to run errands instead of going as a group, so
if you have a little time to hang out with my kids let me know. I am
lousy at asking for help, but if you offer me an hour here or there I
will take you up on it and be grateful forever. I may hire a lawn
service in the spring, but anyone who wants to help fight back the grass
in the fall after Ian leaves is more than welcome. I plan to tackle a
lot of the shoveling myself this winter, but wouldn’t turn down help
with that either. I could use a list of people willing to be specific
kinds of contacts–people good with a computer crisis or plumbing
disasters, and especially people who would forgive me if there is an
emergency in the middle of the night and I need help at an inconvenient
hour. I’m pretty sure I know whom I can call, but it helps me to have
your permission in advance.
This time around I’m more worried about the kids. I don’t think Mona
remembers the last deployment, and Quinn obviously doesn’t, but it was
very difficult for Aden to not have her dad here. They’ve all enjoyed
having Ian as the stay-at-home parent for the past couple of years and
his absence will be deeply felt by all of them this time. Distractions
would be welcome. Anyone from out of town who would like to see
Milwaukee, this coming year would be a fine time to do it. Mail
addressed directly to the kids would also make them happy. Play dates
at other people’s houses always gets them excited, and we are happy to
reciprocate.
Ian will know his mailing address after he arrives in Iraq, and I
will share it once I know it myself. Until that’s available you can
always send him a note through his Army email account.
If you want to “Support the Troops” in a more general way, Ian says
to donate to the USO. The care packages they provided were the most
useful, and he says any organization willing to send Stephen Colbert to
Iraq to entertain soldiers is worth giving money to.
We will be fine. It will be difficult, and I’m not pretending I will
handle everything as well as I’d like, but Aden, Mona and Quinn are
creative, sweet and endlessly amusing. We will have each other, and in
Ian’s absence I can’t wish for anything better.
Love to you all,
Kory, Ian, Aden, Mona and Quinn
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