tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post2684242581239104158..comments2024-03-02T09:05:39.993-06:00Comments on Korinthia's Quiet Corner: Holding Fear at BayKorinthiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15580286551375780490noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-12689478316011965312014-01-12T13:19:40.010-06:002014-01-12T13:19:40.010-06:00So sorry it's a fear you have to live with. I ...So sorry it's a fear you have to live with. I know exactly what you mean about fear lurking and lingering and occasionally rearing its head. Of course the only thing you can do is push it away, but it's easier said than done, isn't it.Jane Roperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11326626413173509209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-49708966369184968602014-01-11T18:34:24.523-06:002014-01-11T18:34:24.523-06:00It's the worrying that's the hardest for m...It's the worrying that's the hardest for me. I'd almost rather deal with the emergency, the immediate happening of the big things I fear than wait, worrying. But in this case, no, I hope the actual dealing with this never happens to your family again.anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11317877435130121894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-74331475184747303242014-01-11T08:08:57.285-06:002014-01-11T08:08:57.285-06:00This was a beautiful piece and example in my opini...This was a beautiful piece and example in my opinion of what truly wonderful blogging can be. You have captured your own fear and then in a larger less specific sense all of our fears so beautifully. Do we ever get past these? Such powerful writing, thank you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01297169915079491139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-70196043492453192082014-01-10T09:20:25.363-06:002014-01-10T09:20:25.363-06:00You know, you go so long without a deployment, you...You know, you go so long without a deployment, you're lulled into a false sense of security. "Oh, it couldn't happen again." And then, you hear it's happened to someone and it's there in your face and you can't escape it. It *could* happen. <br /><br />I'm a planner by nature. Deployments come up so quickly sometimes and there's little time to plan and it sets off anxiety and worry--not that there wouldn't have been anyhow, but having less time to prepare makes it all the worse somehow. <br /><br />Yes, you've been through two and you could certainly do so again, but that doesn't mean you want it to happen. I understand the fear and I'm sorry it's lurking. <br /><br />Hugs. Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317328366288947798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-63155125439639064812014-01-08T21:02:45.631-06:002014-01-08T21:02:45.631-06:00I've never dealt with a deployment, but I can ...I've never dealt with a deployment, but I can definitely understand the idea of hearing about something scary / bad happening to someone and it being "close enough to home" (so to speak) that it strikes that fear. I identify most with your last paragraph and especially the last line. <br />And I hope your husband does not get deployed again! That would be very hard, regardless of kids' ages.<br />-LisaNatiliaVishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494195705490381663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-58932106925112756832014-01-08T11:42:37.000-06:002014-01-08T11:42:37.000-06:00Thank you for sharing this post. It's beautif...Thank you for sharing this post. It's beautifully written and articulates the human experience exquisitely. <br /><br />My husband was diagnosed with a long-term but still terminal illness 6 years ago. We were given 10-20 years as a prognosis. So, I feel that clock ticking and fear even though things have gone as well as they possibly could. This part of your post resonated with me, just substitute Ian deploying with my husband's tumor growing back and you've written my life exactly:<br /><br />"Not a day goes by that I don't think about how Ian could get deployed again. Not a day goes by that I don't push that fear aside and get on with what I need to do."<br /><br />I send warm thoughts to you and your family.Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12506648780852424097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-82543145156896205142014-01-08T11:35:22.594-06:002014-01-08T11:35:22.594-06:00Just nodding here in understanding. I still have ...Just nodding here in understanding. I still have an occasional dream about the military even though my husband is out.SarahBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-28983962297997360892014-01-08T11:20:43.633-06:002014-01-08T11:20:43.633-06:00I think worry for me is part of wanting to be prep...I think worry for me is part of wanting to be prepared, but some things we can't control. Writing about it helps get it out of my head, though, and that helps. Thanks for the virtual hugs!Korinthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15580286551375780490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8654887465201994138.post-18509178668335989482014-01-08T10:50:00.821-06:002014-01-08T10:50:00.821-06:00Ah, fear...never a pleasant thing. I guess unless...Ah, fear...never a pleasant thing. I guess unless it's our resident herpetologist's slight fear of getting bit by a venemous snake when he's looking for copperheads. I think it's very natural to see something happening to another person/family and immediately worry about your own situation. Some people go right into gratitude, but I tend to go straight to worry and fantasize about how it could happen to our family. I hope fervently that Ian never gets deployed again. I also hope equally fervently that you get some sleep...that is never good. Hugs!Peghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162890081910497200noreply@blogger.com